News!

[rushthatspeaks]

So I could and at some point should make a post about the way my health has gone sideways and things I am doing/going to do about it and how that's why I haven't been on the internet much, but I don't want to make that post right now, because there are much, much better things to think about.

Namely that after two+ years of trying and more paperwork than seems remotely reasonable, Ruth is pregnant.

Assuming all goes well, the baby will arrive late September/early October. I am really looking forward to being a father.

Terminology note: I am, in fact, going to be a father. Please refer to me as any variation on that. 'Parent' is also acceptable. For a large set of personal reasons, including things about my gender identity and from my childhood, referring to me as being in any way a mother or variations on that word is not okay and I would very much rather you didn't. (Besides, there are all those people who insist that every child needs a father and a mother-- I assume they will all be delighted to know this one has got those.)

Ruth and I are both absolutely through-the-roof happy about this.

When I figure out how much I'm going to want to write about the process of this pregnancy and so on, I'll set up an opt-in filter for people who want details, because I know there are people who read this who would be upset or triggered by running across those details unexpectedly. But that is all going to happen later.

Baby! We are going to have a baby! YAY!

Comments

[the_rck]

Congratulations! I hope everything goes perfectly!

I strongly suggest telling people that you don't want to hear pregnancy/labor horror stories. People love to share those for some reason, and they're the opposite of helpful.

I also recommend a birthing class even if you plan to go with anesthesia and all that because, if you can get by the propaganda, knowing all the steps of what's likely to happen is useful. The class we took even covered a little bit of advice on what to do if labor happened at a point when one was unable to get help from someone else that was reassuring. Our insurance covered the cost of the class. I'm not sure if that's typical or not (I have Medicare and had it then, and coverage under Medicare tends to be very different, usually better, than other coverage).

[kate_nepveu]

Congratulations! Yay!

Also I ended up ritually ending every mention of my pregnancies with "no unsolicited advice, no horror stories," so, yeah.

[jjhunter]

*throws holographic confetti in celebration*

[rushthatspeaks]

Ooh, shiny! Thanks!

[anne]

This is wonderful! Congratulations to you both--and to the child, for joining such an excellent family.

What kind of wool do you prefer for knitted items: superwash or hand-wash? (I can't offer acrylic; it gives me terrible hand pain.)

[rushthatspeaks]

Thank you so much!

Definitely superwash. Definitely. I occasionally knit other people things with hand-wash, but my experience is that if I wind up with that myself it doesn't work out very well.

[redbird]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[grrlpup]

wonderful news! :)

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! We are really delighted!

[ceb]

Omigosh! Congratulations :-)

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[kaberett]

Good luck for an easy pregnancy and delivery, and HURRAH TINY HUMAN. ♥

[rushthatspeaks]

Thank you! It's early days yet, but so far so good, and YES TINY HUMAN!

[yhlee]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thank you!

[zeborah]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! Also, what an amazing festive icon!

[oracne]

Congrats to all!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thank you!

[ambyr]

Congrats!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[mildred_of_midgard]

Congrats!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[thistleingrey]

Felicitations! Best wishes to all of you.

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! So far, so awesome, though of course it's early days yet.

[loligo]

Congratulations! Raising small people is an endless learning experience.

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! Yeah, the one thing I'm sure of is that I have no idea what to expect.

Also, I have always loved that icon.

[potted_music]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[coffeeandink]

Mazel tov!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[starlady]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[snarp]

Awesome! Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[skygiants]

Oh my gosh, congratulations to you both!!! HOW DELIGHTFUL :D :D :D

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! WE ARE DELIGHTED. At some point I am sure I will get to a point where LITERALLY EVERY OTHER THOUGHT THROUGH MY HEAD is not 'OMG RUTH IS PREGNANT!', but that hasn't been today, and honestly probably won't be any time this week.

[msilverstar]

long-awaited baby yay!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! The paperwork had reached truly ridiculous levels, so we're really glad this is finally happening.

[cyphomandra]

Congratulations!!! Yay parenthood!!

(I have 22 month old twins who also took a lot of paperwork and medical intervention to come into existence)

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

You understand, then. About the paperwork. And the doctors. Comrade. (And yay your twins!)

[jesusandrew]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[lightgetsin]

Yay! Man this can be a long, loooong road sometimes, and we, too, did an unbelievable amount of paperwork, and spent an incredible amount of time. Spoiler: still worth it!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

So much paperwork. So much. And yeah, even right now, it feels worth it already.

[themadpoker]

Congratulations!

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks!

[wordweaverlynn]

Congratulations! I'm sure you'll be a wonderful father.

[rushthatspeaks]

Thanks! I shall certainly try to be.