:: But every time she thinks that sort of thing, she literally accuses herself of betraying her culture, of letting the side down. At one point she thinks something along the lines of 'my daughters disobeying me makes a mockery of four thousand years of civilization'. However, it is European composers she insists her girls study. She says outright that she thinks that Chinese culture has produced nothing to equal Beethoven's Ninth. The Chinese she insists her daughters learn is Mandarin, which is not what her family speaks. ::

There was a discussion I saw somewhere that pointed out some hard things about how she is second generation and clings to stereotypes of Chinese identity, as if those stereotypes are her identity.

Which is a pretty painful thing to contemplate.